As long as people can stand you
I liked the first definition of the word “vent” that popped up when I googled the word:
vent in Science. vent. (věnt) An opening, and the conduit leading to it, in the side or at the top of a volcano, permitting the escape of fumes, a liquid, a gas, or steam.
That’s exactly what my mouth was yesterday. A conduit permitting the escape of words, complaints and steam.
- Expressed loudly my frustration
- Talked about my concerns to whoever was ready to listen to them.
- Said whatever I wanted to say and didn’t worry about it.
My first victim, early morning, was Hubby. I had a long monologue about crumbs I found on a TV tray, about family chores, and how tired I am to keep it up.
My second victim was the mom of Duderina’s friend. It was the first time I’d met her. We were at the playground and I think I’ve told her more or less everything about what I’m going through now. I don’t know how she feels about it but she laughed a lot. I’ll be able to tell you more if I ever see her again.
My third victim was my new friend Omar. He brought his daughters home for an innocent playdate with the kids and got trapped in my stories.
The fourth was Fred, my brother in law. He said half a word that I thought wasn’t accurate and I went on a 15-minutes tirade about why he shouldn’t get me started on the topic.
The fifth was my cousin. I told him I needed his advice to help me figure out what my priorities are. He said “sure” and when he started asking me questions, I replied it wasn’t a good time for me to talk while I kept talking at the same time.
My sixth and last one was Hubby –again- and I can’t remember why I refused to watch the episode of a TV-show with him, have dinner, and stay in the living room.
And the above people are only the ones I had whole conversations with….
How did venting out feel?
First, it opened my eyes: I need some rest.
Second, I really want to organize my priorities if I want to keep it up.
Last, it felt great to say whatever I wanted to say.
Now, let me check the status of my relationships and tell you if you can safely try this self-care act or not 😉
WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? “In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.” Khalil Gibran
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Venting out can feel good but if you want to maintain healthy relationships on the long term, there is a much efficient way to express your frustration and get results.
You could try non-violent communication, a clear and effective model for communicating in a way that is cooperative conscious, and compassionate adapted by Dr Marshall B. Rosenberg.
I highly recommende this read -more than 1 million copies sold and translated in 30 languages-: