Set an intention for your day
Yesterday, first thing I saw when I opened my eyes is Duderina’s wide eyes staring at me.
– Mamma, what do you want to do today?
– What do you mean?
– What’s important for you to do?
– Let me think. I wanna call Tatemma*. And you?
– When I come back home from school, I want to get rid of my shower quickly and then enjoy my evening.
This morning’s conversation inspired my self-care act: set an intention for my day.
Calling Tatemma wasn’t my intention. It was something I wanted to do.
But it triggered something in me.
Of all people, why did I want to call Tatemma? I vizualized her and I immediately felt her loving, caring, comforting presence. It brought tears to my eyes.
That’s when I realized my stress level was high, very high.
Those last days have been crazy and I can’t see the end of it.
I work on way too many projects at once and I’ve been taking care of the little ones and of our family life almost on my own lately.
How can I keep managing it all?
Would I have to work non-stop for the following 12 hours, have something that I’d call dinner and go back to work?
These questions brought other ones.
Why am I working on so many things? How can I possibly inflict this rhythm to myself? Can someone suddenly become hyperactive? Or is this hyperactivity hiding something else?
Then I thought I had way too many questions and not enough time to think about them.
When this happen, I usually try to set priorities.
Yesterday, the most urgent one was to lower my stress level.
So I set an intention for my day: today, I’m gonna do the best I can. I will live each moment mindfully. I will not think about the length of my to-do list. I will cross as many items as I can out. And whatever my output is, I will be happy about it because I would have done my the best.
I confess it’s a bit long for an intention so I’ll try to make it simpler. My intention yesterday was to be gentle and compassionate towards myself.
Did it work? Yes, but only when I was awake.
At night, Stress woke me up. It was 3:30 AM.
– Mimi, you chased me all day long. I’m back now.
– What do you want?
– We need to talk.
– About what?
– Your priorities.
– Why don’t we do that tomorrow morning?
– This is the morning
– No, it’s not. It’s dark.
– It’s 3:30 AM so technically, it’s the morning.
After an hour of a vain conversation, I took action.
I joined Duderina in her bed. I knew her innocent and quiet breath would knock him out.
It did and I went back to sleep.
This morning, I set the same intention as yesterday: be gentle and compassionate towards myself.
But I know it’s not enough so I took one extra decision. The self-care Journey reaching its end soon, it’s high time for me to reset my priorities.
Sit. Think. Seek advice. Exchange. Process. Make decisions.
Double uppercut, left hook.
And stress will get out of the way.
For this round at least.
* Tatemma is my second mom. She was my nanny and my mom’s cousin.
WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? Intentions compressed into words enfold magical power.
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If you’re wondering what’s the difference between setting an intention and a goal, I suggest this read from Inc.