put things in perspective
as often as needed
Two days ago, I was so tired in the evening that I couldn’t write my post of the day.
That’s the one I’m writing now.
The problem is that that day seems so far from me right now that I have a hard time relating what happened.
What I know is that it was my second day of packing/unpacking, preparing for a huge move.
And I know I was tired and my day was long.
It started in a hotel room in Bestheda, MD at 7 AM with a phone call.
My son’s dad:
– His dudeness missed his flight. Visa issues…
– What? Oh no!
I hate it when days start like this.
Still, I didn’t want to get upset and decided that it wouldn’t affect me.
But then all day long, Hubby and I had to manage imponderables like these:
- The mover came too early
- Then he didn’t come back
- The Laundromat lady didn’t want to dry our comforters
- The new storage room was too small
- Then I couldn’t meet with my friend to say good-bye properly
- The babysitter wasn’t home to keep Duderino
- We took him to the storage and the laundry. He started having asthma.
All day went by like this.
How do you take care of yourself in these conditions: you don’t have time and nothing goes right?
You put things in perspective and at each imponderable remind yourself that none of thess bugs is life threatening. That at the end of the day, you’re just moving and that at some point, the day is going to be over and all problems will go with it.
Is it hard? Yes, but repeat it like a mantra: “you’re just …(fill in the blank. “moving” for me) and at some point, the day is going to be over and all problems will go with it.”
I’m pretty sure it will work for you as it did for me.
WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? When days are hectic, we can get stressed, tensed and upset OR step back, bring some perspective to what we’re living and realize there are always problems than what we’re going through.
MORE ABOUT THIS
Here are 5 thoughts that can help you put things in perspective in difficult situations. Read the whole paper on Psychology Today here.
- Ask yourself what are the costs to you and other people around you when you react with such intensity.
- Stand back and observe and describe—don’t judge.
- What can you still do even if this is true?
- How will you feel about this in a week, month, or year?
- Think about the event as an inconvenience.