crash a party





4 h


Bring a dish

Preliminary definitions:

Crash a party: idiomatic expression defining the act of attending a party without being invited to.

Ould 3am moul lbash: Moroccan expression qualifying a “party crasher”, literally “the cousin from the father’s side of the guys who installed the tent” for the party. Usually, ould 3am moul lbash is not a relative, just a random party crasher.

How do these idioms apply in real life?

Easy: crash a party as a ould 3am moul bash.

That’s what I did yesterday.

Actually what I did was worse.

I crashed the party, and brought 6 people with me. If I want to be very indulgent with myself, Duderino being only 2 and a half, we can round it down to 5.

Still. 5 is a lot.

But at the same time, I’m not sure I belong to the ould 3am moul lbash category. I’m closer than that to Najah, my host: I am the sister of the wife of her son.

And the people I brought are close to me: my Hubby, my cousin, my stepdaughter, my son, a friend of his from the US and Duderino.

Ok, writing this, I’m starting to feel a bit ashamed about myself.

It might be too much.

But if it were, I have to tell you my friends, that I didn’t feel it at all.

Najah – my sister’s mother in law, then- and her family welcomed us with the most beautiful smiles, the widest arms and the warmest of hearts.

We had an unforgettable wonderful Eid-Al-Fitr* and the best meal in months.

Najah, I’m sorry you’ve learnt it at your expense: having the finest cuisine in town is a dangerous aptitude.

We will come back 😀 😀 😀


*Muslim religious holiday marking the end of Ramadan, holy month of fasting

WHY IS IT SELF-CARE?  In Morocco, you can crash almost any party and be welcome to do so. What’s cool about it? Spontaneity. You don’t have to decide days in advance on your plans. You just follow what you feel like doing. Still, I always make sure that I’m welcome even if I’m inviting myself.


My friends, there are a couple rules for successfully crashing a party.

  1. Bring something to eat: ideally a dish but if you can’t because you don’t have time or don’t know how to cook, bring dessert. Anything chocolate or berries, flavors that most people love.
  2. Bring good vibes: smiles, stories to share, jokes, and if you know how to play music, your instrument.
  3. Be fairplay: accept with a smile that people crash your parties in return. It can seem annoying at first but people will remember that you opened your house to them and will open theirs in return. Life in community….

And let the fun begin!

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