play tetris (and be a better parent)
Being a good parent is hard.
Actually, this statement is not accurate enough. Let me start again: being a parent is hard.
Everyday, you do your best and yet, rarely are you satisfied.
During the week, I don’t spend a lot of time with the kids. They go to school early in the morning and when I pick them up in the afternoon, we usually have two hours together before they go to sleep.
In my ideal life, I’d spend that time playing, teaching them what I know about life, laughing, dancing and lots of other fun stuff like the ones you see on commercials.
Problem is: there is life.
And in life, I have to make dinner, supervise the homework, go grocery shopping or support my friend who needs help while I’m in the middle of all this.
When the kids are eating, I have to teach them how to do it because it’s my role as a parent. But they’re kids. They’re too busy having fun.
And then I clean up and I rush into the next activity: getting ready to go to bed.
Well, my friends, I will stop here.
All of you who have kids know the endless list of tasks we have to do everyday to take good care of them.
I often think, and I’m sure you do too about your kids: Duderina should exercise a little bit more, do ballet or yoga. Oh and I’d like to spend more quality time with her, not have this unpleasant impression that I’m always scolding her about something, saying no to this, no to that…
This is hard. Because I do my best and still, I think I could do more.
This is not self-care, my friends.
So I’m working on it.
I want to keep doing my best but still, learn to let go.
Put the pressure off. To let the pleasure in.
That’s what I did yesterday.
I downloaded a Tetris App on the IPad and played with Duderina, who’s always ready to have fun.
When I called her to play, she immediately grounded herself in the moment and forgot about everything else. So did I.
And F*ck bedtime!
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WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? Bedtime is usually a lot of pressure (wash you hands, brush your teeth, put your pajamas on…). Releasing the pressure of always requiring them to do things, of always running against time is relaxing, fun and educationnal. Whene we’re stressed, we teach them to be stressed. When we’re cool, we teach them to be cool.
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Sometimes, being an adult, besides being boring, is a lot of pressure: you’re always giving directions to your kids on how to do things, always pressuring them to fit in a timeline.
This self-care act was very educationnal for me: it reminded me that I’m the one putting the pressure. And that I could be the one to release it.
One of the coolest thing of being an adult is that know one is here to tell you what to do. And I really think we don’t enjoy this power as much as we could.