have an unbirthday party





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Bring a cake and candles

Yesterday, we celebrated everyone’s unbirthday party at my neighbors’.

Usually, an unbirthday party is celebrated by one person at a time. But since the practice is already unconventional, why stick to an individual celebration? Collective is more fun, especially for the kids.

The trigger to this improvised moment?

A cake my new friend Basma brought.

We had invited her and her daughter for dinner.

The initial plan was to have a barbecue in the backyard but the weather didn’t allow it.

So we decided to order pizzas and play games with the kids.

Basma didn’t know about our plans. In her mind, she was invited for dinner at her new friends’ place.

So when she came, she brought a cake that was way too beautiful to be eaten on a regular take-out pizza party: a huge mango and raspeberries mousse cake.

I didn’t have the heart to cut it on a random day.

Luckily, my neighbors, Ann and Terry, wanted to join the pizza party and told us to come to their place to have it. “Cool! The more, the merrier!” I thought.

Now that I’m writing this, I realize it’s a bit weird: you invite someone at your place for the first time for dinner, the dinner becomes a pizza party, then the whole thing moves from your place to your neighbors’ and you end up blowing candles for everybody’s unbirthday party. 

But no ones seemed to care.

I think it’s because an unbirthday has many cool things about it:

  • Everyone’s happy because everyone feels special
  • All kids are happy because they all have their turn to blow the candles
  • All kids are happy because they sing Happy Birthday until they can’t sing anymore
  • It’s easier to cut the cake: traditionally the (un)birthday person cuts the first slice. But since it’s everyone (un)birthday, everyone cuts a slice. As a result, cutting the cake is super easy.
  • A regular day becomes a special day

And if you’re lucky, this unbirthday party will also coincide with the day your friend you haven’t seen in years (Wafaa, on the left side of the pic) comes and brings presents for the whole family.

New rule: Improvised unbirthday parties come with unexpected unbirthday gifts. Isn’t that cool?

WHY IS IT SELF-CARE?  An unbirthday party is a good reminder that any day is a good day to throw a party and have fun. It’s even more fun when it’s improvised, like yesterday.


For those who missed Alice in Wonderland, the unbirthday concept was born in this Lewis Carroll book .

Here is a link tothe 3-min Youtube song to play if you want to celebrate an unbirthday party properly:

A Very Merry Unbirthday to You!

We didn’t play it yesterday: one extra reason to throw another unbirthday party soon!

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