sit under a flowery tree
My friends, I have a question for you: what’s the first item on your bucket list?
I’m asking you because I think I’m stepping into something that looks like a midlife crisis.
I’ve been thinking a lot about time that goes by lately.
Until very recently, I felt like my future was in front of me.
But my perspective has started to change: in the scale of my lifetime, I feel like I’m in the middle. In the best case scenario, I’m have as much reminding as I have behind.
So I’m asking myself:
- At what age do you stop being young?
- Is it when you realize that people born the year you graduated from high school joined the workforce?
- Is it when a 10-hour work day drains the energy out of you, knocks you out; when 10 years ago, you could still go for a couple drinks and some party?
- Is it when you start asking yourself how old is the person next to you at Starbucks?
- Is it when you’re lucid enough to realize that your twenties feel close, which means your sixties are not far.
- Is it when you look at pictures of yourself in your thirties and think of how young you looked? And realize that inside, you feel unchanged?
- Or is it when you start asking yourself these questions?
I have to tell you my friends that these thoughts are depressing.
But I’m trying to see them as an opportunity. As a chance to think realistically about my priorities in life. About what I have accomplished and what I still want to accomplish.
So far, making a bucket list was never in my top priorities. But I’m going to do one.
Because I want to make sure that– if I’m granted the privilege of staying alive- I give myself all chances to do what I want to do in this short life of mine.
What does this have to do with sitting under a tree as a self-care act?
Well, 3 things:
- Yesterday was a beautiful day and Hubby and I were heading back home from my Starbucks office. He was getting ready to travel for a long time abroad. I wasn’t done with my work. But life being short, one needs to set their priorities. Enjoying the time I have with the person I love is one of mine.
- Sitting under a tree, laying on the grass is a perfect time to think. Remember Newton and his Eureka moment on the Law of gravity? He was sitting under an apple tree when he got his inspiration. I might not have a “eureka moment” about time and life that goes by but I want to increase my chances by letting my thoughts wander and grow.
- A flowery tree and the beauty of spring are here to remind us of how ephemeral things are. And this journey is here to remind me I want to enjoy every moment of it. Including sitting under a tree on a sunny and warm day.
My post could have ended here but I really want to hear from you on this topic.
As I told you, doing my bucket list is one of my next self-care acts but I want to share with you the first one that pops up when I think about it: travel the world.
Tanzania, Argentina, Japan, Sicily, Scandinavian fjords, Alaska, Australia, New Zealand, New Caledonia and the Maldives Islands. And the list is far from being exhaustive.
So if I’m very lucky and I get to travel once every 2 years, it will take me 20 years to travel all these countries. Should start planning and saving now 🙂
Now your turn: what’s the first item on your bucket list?
WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? “Beauty consists of its own passing, just as we reach for it. It’s the ephemeral configuration of things in the moment, when you can see both their beauty and their death.” Muriel Barbery.
Enjoying an ephemeral flowery tree reminds you of how beautiful it is and how short it will last. Priceless.
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There is one thought I want to share with you regarding this self-care act:
Do not wait for the perfect moment to do something you want to do.
Seize the opportunities that are here. Try to remind yourself that you have one life. And that this one life is short.
Each day, you can decide to have a good day.
Yesterday, when I did this self-care act, Hubby and I were heading home and had lots of things ahead of us. He was traveling and hadn’t packed his bags yet. I wasn’t done with half the things I had to do.
But I wanted to stop because, I’ve lived in the area for nearly 3 years now and I’ve never sat under these trees, although I’ve always wanted to.
In a couple days, these beautiful flowers are gone. They might even fall today if there is a storm. These flowers are not going to wait for me. Life is not going to wait for me. Time is not going to wait for me.
So today is always the day to do something you really want to do.