SELF-CARE ACT#102

celebrate hard work. savor doing nothing

CATEGORY

Psychological

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TIME

Acknowledging hard work is an ongoing process

BUDGET

Zero

This picture tells you everything about what I did yesterday to reward myself from the hard work of the last weeks:

  • I enjoyed a gorgeous weather,
  • I took a nap in the backyard,
  • I looked at the birds in the trees and the clouds in the sky,
  • I used 2 hats: one for my nap, one for when I was awake,
  • I polished my nails,
  • And I took my flip-flops out for the first time of the year.

What the picture doesn’t tell you is WHY I did it.

Why did I take a whole day off in the middle of the week to relax?

To answer this question, I need to ask YOU a couple questions:

  • When you wake up in the morning, how many things do you have on your to-do list?
  • During the day, how many items from your to-do list do you cross?
  • When your day is over, how many items (new and old) are on your to-do?
  • And before going to sleep, are you satisfied?

I can’t tell for sure what you think, but if you’re like me, my guess is that:

  1. When you wake up in the morning, you have more on your list than you can do in a day.
  2. When your day is over, you can’t remember how many items you’ve crossed because you’ve crossed so many.
  3. When your day is over, your list is as long as when your day started.
  4. Before going to sleep, you’re not really satisfied because you still have so much to do.

If, like me, this is your reality – know that we have a problem, my friends: this problem is called “race to performance”.

It applies equally to our personal and our professional lives. We have so many things to do in a day, that we can’t humanly do, that we end up racing against time, trying and trying and trying.

I find this reality overwhelming. Depressing. And unfair.

So, starting from yesterday, I have taken 2 resolutions for both my psychological and my physical health.

1. From now on, every time I cross something big from my to-do, I will take time to stop, acknowledge my hard work and thank my body for sustaining me and allowing me to do it.

2. From now on, my objective is not anymore to cross all items out of my to-do. My objective is to be satisfied with whatever I manage to cross. Because my to-do list -like my laundry- will end only the day I die. Not sooner.

What do you think about that? Please comment below and let’s start a conversation.

 

WHY IS IT SELF-CARE? Acknowledging your hard work, allowing yourself to enjoy life gives value to what you’ve done. It creates a feeling of achievement that is fulfilling and vital for your psychological, emotional and physical health.

MORE ABOUT THIS

I have 2 tips that I’ve started practicing and that might help you ackowledge your hard work too:

1. Every day, choose 3 items from your to-do list. Only three. If you manage to do them, consider your mission done, your objective fulfilled. This will help you experiment achievement on a daily basis.

2. When you cross something out of your to-do (personal or professional), don’t erase it. Put it in a file and name it “Done”. At the end of each week, read the file and see what you’ve accomplished.

You’ll be amazed by how much you’ve done.

And finally, allow yourself to rest.

“Activity and rest are 2 vital aspects of life. To find a balance in them is a skill in itself. Wisdom is knowing when to have rest, when to have activity and how much of each ot have”

Ravi Shankar.

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